Facing Confrontations 

Sometimes walking our path means confronting an obstruction. Sometimes, we are given a path around it, under it or over it. But sometimes, we are asked to stand our ground and confront it. 

I once heard a yoga teacher tell a class that yogis are “peaceful” and “don’t fight”.  I kindly confronted her on this point, reminding her that the Bhagavad Gita, a central yogic text, is entirely about the divine embodied as the God Krishna showing up on a battlefield to persuade the main character, Arjuna, who is in internal conflict about what to do, that he needs to do his duty and fight. 

Essentially, Krishna says that we have to live our dharma and do our life’s duties even when we would rather not.  It’s important if you are not familiar with the text to know that Arjuna and his ancestors have already exhausted every peaceable means by which to confront the problem. Krishna is certainly not advising fighting for the sake of fighting. But Krishna also does not tell Arjuna to be peaceful in the sense that he should lay down upon the ground and refuse to battle.  (Though Arjuna in his confusion and fear would like to.) He instead urges Arjuna to be peaceful within himself – to accept that this is his life’s duty, that fighting for this cause is something he has incarnated to do…Arjuna knows this deep down in his soul, but he judges himself for being called to battle.  He wishes his duty were different than it was.  But Krishna with very beautiful and powerful examples shows how much bigger everything is than the individual while also expounding on how important the warrior’s individual role in it is. 

Being peaceful and not fighting are two different things.  Gandhi was peaceful.  Martin Luther King, Jr. was peaceful.  But they both confronted and fought against existing systems and the individuals who embodied them.  They did refine the battlefield though, teaching millions of others the potential power of non-violent confrontation. The peace they embodied was within themselves – and the means with which they fought their battles revealed this deep inner peace toward humanity.  Their battles, as the most important battles are, were righteous – they were matters of human justice.

Sometimes yogis or other spiritual seekers have a mistaken expectation of what living a spiritual life looks like.  I know that I used to think being spiritual meant being above everything, being untouched…it looked something like floating around in the air in a lotus position with a serene expression never leaving my unlined face.  But as I deepen and deepen and broaden my spiritual practice, I find that what it looks more like is feeling deeply, is embodying one’s own true, authentic nature – however silly, fiery, transformative and challenging that nature is.  It also means being courageous. It means being able to hear your heart’s whispers and being willing to act on that guidance even when your actions may cause you to have to confront the injustices or negligences of another person or institution.  

Developing our spiritual connection doesn’t make us instantly popular with everyone or make our life problem-free and easy.  What it does do is give us a connection to our most authentic self and to the divine love and support that is our birthright.  With this on our side, we are much more equipped to face the difficult battles of our life with a sense of peace.

Krishna stresses over and over that we are here to take action – change through action is the nature of this world.  We can’t simply stick our heads in the sand and hope that someone else does our duty.  When we are called in our hearts to answer justice’s call, we must – but we can do so with confidence in our divine nature and with unattachment to the outcome.  The actions are ours, but the results belong to the divine. 

Peace and justice are worth fighting for, whether we are called to confront a neglectful landlord, an unjust work environment, an individual who is threatening our well being or an institution or government that is participating in unjust or harmful acts. We create change by envisioning it, believing in it, and taking the actions that we are called to in order to make it come about.  We are all called to play our role. We a play a role within ourselves and we play a role in the world. We can play that role peacefully by practicing meditation and prayer before, after or during a confrontation.  We can asked to be guided to our highest possibility.  We can treat every being in the situation with respect.  We can do our best to remain calm and thoughtful and open to the highest guidance.  But we must do, it is why we came here – we embodied out of a desire to learn and grow individually and collectively.  We are here to change and shape our selves and the world.  

Walk lovingly through your battles knowing that the divine is in all things and that through these greater conflicts, even when it seems darkest, we are moving toward increased happiness, love, light and peace for all beings.  It is possible to do our duty, however trying, with calm and peace and even joy, in our hearts.   

Peace be with you.

Trusting our intuition

A few months ago, I walked out of a dentist office before the start of an appointment that had been scheduled for my son.  I had my baby with me and trust me, it is not easy at this stage of parenthood to schedule much less get both my children to an appointment. But the moment I walked in the office, my intuition started to tingle and not in a positive way – I felt a sense of apprehension and unease that grew as I interacted with the front desk. Even though nothing serious occurred, my intuition alarm bells were ringing with increased urgency letting me know that this was not the dentist for my child.  When I told the receptionist that I changed my mind, that I didn’t feel this was the right dentist for me and that I was leaving, she responded by rudely scoffing at me.  For me, that served as confirmation that I was making the correct decision.

Still as I walked out with my young son asking me questions, trying to understand the change in plans, I felt guilty and ashamed.  I worried that I was wrong, that I was making a mistake.  I got in the car, reached out to another local pediatric dentist who saw my child the same day.  We had a great appointment and he continues to be my children’s dentist.  Experience gave me the confirmation I needed. I had made the right choice for me.

The for me is incredibly important because when we trust other people’s opinions and advice above our own feelings and desires or when we let society determine for us what we should do, we lose our connection to our intuition.  

We can imagine our intuition like a golden thread of light that connects up to our higher self.  In the incredibly loud noise of this world – society’s opinions, culture’s “rules”, family’s expectations, friends’ opinions, our own fears – it is easy for our own inner guidance to be drowned out.  Yet, it is this very guidance that like a personally designed GPS system from divine Source, will lead us exactly down the path we most need to walk to learn and grow and accomplish what we most deeply desire to accomplish in this world.  

Following our intuition means being our own person, not who anyone else expects us to be. It means deciding what is right for ourselves regardless of society’s pressures to conform.  It means honoring our highest wisdom and desires.  It means being willing to say “no” when everyone else is pressuring us to say “yes”.  It means being willing to possibly disappoint, annoy and frustrate others in order to most highly honor ourselves.

Meditation calms the distracting mind so that with repeated practice even when we are not sitting in meditation, we continue to have a strong connection with our inner voice, with our soul. We are first and foremost our own best friends and when we tap into our highest, we can not lead ourselves astray. We grow confident in our decision making.  We find we carry with us a secret wisdom.  We feel more supported and less afraid.  We learn to trust in the divine, but also, very deeply in our own Self, which is our own individual piece of divine light.  

It can be scary and intimidating to trust our intuition, especially when we perceive that the stakes are high or when we face others’ judgment and condemnation. But it can also be incredibly freeing.  As I drove to that second dentist, I felt such a sense of exhilaration – I was empowered. I was in charge.  I was fully, unequivocally me.

The person most important for you to listen to is already right there with you, inside you, for you, as you.  Listen….

Going big to manage fear 

It is easy to project our worst fears onto a blank future. It is even easier when the present climate stokes our fears with real and imagined scenarios.  Fear makes us myopic. It drops us into survival mode. We can think of nothing, but protecting ourselves. Our thoughts get increasingly panicked and distorted as our brain assaults us with an endless series of negative and threatening scenarios. Our health and relationships suffer.

We are humans and as humans, we want to escape pain.  Our fear causes us to consider fighting or fleeing.  At different times in our lives, each is a valid option – sometimes we have to stand and fight, sometimes we have to run and seek shelter.  But there is also a path between these two extremes.

If we are not in literal and immediate physical danger, then we have the option of seeking release from our fears while still retaining the will and energy to take positive actions in the world.  

Sometimes we need to step back and get a bigger perspective and when the fear is big, we need to step really far back and get a really big perspective – an eternal perspective, a soul perspective.

Life is change.  We are continuously learning, growing, evolving, creating and destroying.  The earth is our school – the place our souls come to incarnate as humans to deepen our understanding of ourselves as individual souls and as a collective soul.  The experience we have here on earth is very different than the non-judgemental, high vibration experience we have in spirit form.  Here, there is much pain, darkness, delusion, disease, and anger.  

As we each work to connect individually and collectively with our higher selves, slowly the high vibration of spirit begins to raise the low vibration of the solid, human state.  Sometimes, the clashes between these two collective parts of our selves is quite volatile.  It is an earthquake.  A tsunami.  A major energetic surge that presents as violent, upending, and terrifyingly out of our control.

But what if I told you that we designed it this way? What if I told you that when we were in spirit we devised this current earth drama in order to ultimately bring change and light to the human world? What if all that is playing out are steps in the seemingly too slow path that leads us as a planet out of darkness into light? Out of individual ego conaciousness into collective soul consciousness? How does that affect how you feel? How you react?  What you fear? 

Accepting that there is purpose and light and divine love even in the darkness doesn’t make us complacent. It doesn’t make us airy fairy. In fact it does the exact opposite.  It grounds us.  It gives us the energy and hope to keep fighting the good fight, to keep loving, hoping, connecting and moving forward. 

The most frightening challenges in life – death, violence, oppression, suffering – all demand that we get very big in perspective because to stay small is to stay human, to stay delusional and to lose sight of our bigger, more full role as souls in human form.

Throw off the shackles of oppression. Do not let fear hold your heart hostage. Meditate. Pray. Spend time in nature.  Read and connect with spiritually connected beings. Look deep inside your own heart and you will find what all meditation masters have found before you – that it is an eternal, endless space of wisdom healing and light.  

Earth is like a deep cave we are exploring.  We must bring our eternal light into it so that we don’t get lost and stuck in its darkness.  It is okay to let go of the fear. It will always find you again and try to hold your heart hostage, but it is okay to reject its oppression.  You will not lose yourself, your beliefs or your passion.  Instead it is faith in your self, in each other and in the light that will lead you and us all to freedom.  

The divine light in me recognizes the divine light in you.  For this world’s sake, for all that feel the call of the light in their heart, we can be brave enough to reject fear and go big in perspective so that we can let our lights shine- individually, collectively – a radiant mass, warm and powerful as the brightest sun. 

Love and light to all – MaSwami 

Accepting conflict 

It can be vey difficult for some of us to live with conflict.  Our anxiety and fear yearns for all relationships, decisions and problems to be solved, as if life were simply a series of dangling knots to tie off and move on from. 

But life is not this. It is ever changing. It shifts. It runs up against itself. It encounters friction. It smashes against itself. It creates and it destroys. 

We experience conflict whenever our external life is not a match with our internal life. We experience conflict in our relationships when others don’t feel or act or behave as we think they should or when their actions or feelings create pain that we want to stop.  Some of us fall into frequent conflict with life because we expect the world around us to solve our problems and we do not realize that we are simply seeking outside of ourselves what we need to look for within. 

But all of this conflict serves a purpose. It creates change, self-reflection, examination of ourselves and the world around us.  While we may not feel we always have perfect harmony in our relationships, that is alright. We can seek a greater harmony – acceptance of the world and our lives as it is today with all of it’s apparent unfinished business, dangling ropes, and knotty confusions.  

We don’t have to be Pollyanna about it.  We don’t have to always like it and we certainly don’t have to invite in unnecessary conflict by repeatedly insisting on our way or setting ourselves up as victims. But we can accept it and even see the beauty in it. Afterall, it is the conflicts creatures have with their environments that cause them to evolve and grow stronger and more in harmony with their environment over time.  

We are all evolving.  We are all coming into greater harmony. Even if you don’t feel like we are after watching te news or arguing with a friend, the truth is we are.  Be patient. Trust. Enjoy.  It is happening. Right now. Seek that greater peace. 

Our infinite hearts and limited bodies 

We simply can not move through this life without dissapointing others.

My baby is teething right now and when she is in pain she simply wants me right there holding her, fully there, eyes on her, comforting her with all I have until she feels better. When the timing syncs up and I can give myself to her, it is a satisfying and divine feeling for us both.  When I can’t she simply wails miserably and loudly. Of course, that pains us both. 

In those moments perhaps she feels rejected, unwanted, unloved or simple physical pain and discomfort. I don’t know.  But I know that the whole time my physical body is causing her this disappointment, my heart is fully and infinitely loving her. 

Our hearts are infinite in their capacity to love, but in order to become human we have to come into this limited physical body.  Though there are some yogis siddhis claimed to have achieved this, for the rest of us – we simply am not be in two places at once.  On top of that, we need to eat, rest, relax and all of these activities we need to do to care for ourselves limits what we can do for others.

That is okay. In the bigger scheme of things, taking care of ourselves better positions us to love and care for others, but in the everyday we may have to say “no” to our children, spouses, friends, partners and sometimes, others may have a tantrum when we disappoint them.  Sometimes we have a tantrum ourselves, when our own parents, siblings, partners dissapoint us.

In those moments, we can remember our infinite heart that is hiding and loving th even while in the physical, we can not give others everything they want from us without damaging ourselves. We can remind ourselves that others who have disappointed us are limited too – perhaps they were tired or run down or just needed some space.

As humans we tend to draw conclusions. If someone is busy, we worry perhaps that we are not important or loved by them.  We need not go there.  We can trust that we are always in our loved ones infinite hearts even when they are angry, even when we need to take space, even when we are angry.

It is the paradox of accepting both our limitless spiritual nature and our limited human experience that grows our human heart in compassion for ourselves and others so that it is able to reach toward the incredible love of our infinite heart, of our soul. 

We are soul

As we delve into our mystical journey and move more deeply down our path, we discover an important truth about our beingness that other mystics and sages and psychics and prophets have discovered, but which many of us have not been taught or realized.  We are not human beings with a soul. Rather, we are souls with human bodies. 

To realize this, is to profoundly change the way we see the world and live our lives. As souls, we are all connected. As souls, we are timeless and multidimensional. As souls, we continue after the human body dies. As souls, we are connected to everything – to all forms of life, to all thought, to all realms of existence. 

It also means we can relax a bit. We don’t have to run around so frantically, we don’t need to worry so much, and we also don’t need to waste our time obsessively complaining or hiding out from our dreams. 

We are souls who have chosen to be here. We have a path. We have a plan. We have help. We are supported in this world and beyond. If we take the first steps toward this support, if we reach our hand out toward it through prayer, meditation, intention, or other practices, the divine consciousness in one of its infinite forms will reach itself to meet us wherever we are at. 

We can truly take our seat in this world, knowing one has been prepared for us.  We can begin to listen to our inner awareness, the consciousness within us that connects to the universal. 

We can begin the process of remembering who and what we truly are and what it is exactly we are here to do.  We can begin the process of forming a relationship with our selves. We may need to do work as part of this relationship. We may need to sit quietly, we may need to heal old wounds, we may need to be taught, we may need to speak up and we may need to listen.  It will help if we keep an open mind. It will help if we keep an open heart.  Setting the intention of  unconditional love and forming an attitude of curious discovery will help.

But truly, we don’t have to bring anything to it. We already are. Here. Being. As we always have been.  Listen. Remember.